So glad I found it!

The first 3 modules of the course gave me the courage to confront and finish two bully relationships in my life. It’s astounding. 

Many many thanks. 

F.F

You've helped me to access something that 20 years of therapy danced around, and countless self-help books missed. I do not have to take on someone else's abuse, blame, and shame. This is a game-changer.

A.D

I enjoyed this course so much.

I really appreciated the daily videos of Mary explaining the latest topic and then the very succinct pdf that I could easily understand and take in.

I have had a lot of trauma and get triggered very easily and I found Mary's videos to be very soothing even though the subject matter is the most painful we will face.

The biggest gift I received from this course was finding self compassion for the first time in my life.

Christina R.

I am so grateful I signed onto this course.

It is brilliantly designed and was perfect for me at this point in my life. I received a lot, even as a seasoned therapist, the course enabled me to address aspects of my life that I had not yet addressed/looked at. 

It doesn't matter how much we've done, the course just takes us where we are, so we can move beyond and beyond and beyond.  I have already recommended the course to several people!

C.F

"I have learnt more about myself and achieved more healing in the first 4 weeks of this course than in around 15 hours of 1 to 1 therapy with 2 different psychologists this year (2022)".

James

Mary Toolan has a razor sharp insight into toxic dynamics.

Her course will cut away all the doubt you have been living with and help you to move forward into a better life. I am extremely grateful and offer to her my whole hearted encouragement.
_{course participant} 

Wow, what an amazing course.

So much content and tools given to better understand and heal. The support through the course was wonderful, thank you so much Mary.  Definitely recommend this to anyone who is looking to kick start the healing journey.                             A.M

Finally discovering true freedom!

Cathy Postra

I was very happy with the dedication and hard work Mary put into the course. The course was well researched and easy to follow.

M.S

Bless you, Mary! You are the silver lining.

Mary Toolan's Scapegoat Child Recovery program is exactly what I needed to guide me through the necessary but tough process of reconnecting with my younger selves, with lots of gentleness, newfound awareness of what I went through and tools to integrate all aspects of what made me who I am today.

It brings out the wiser, grounded adult version of you more pronounced than the easily triggered old self.

At the end of it, I have hopes of having much more control over my responses to outer situations, besides the inner calm that comes after being validated for our personal dark secrets.
_{course participant}

Thank you, Mary for putting this course together on such important work.

I found it helpful to differentiate all the feelings, beliefs, and messages that were pumped in from my family and define them. I especially related to the striving wound. I'm glad I found you online and look forward to more courses and information.
_{course participant}

It was extremely validating 

to have a course instructor for the first time in my life who seems to actually understand what I have gone through. 

Prior to participating in this program I had done years of therapy. None of the therapists I had seen had any insight into the crazy dynamic of my family.

_{course participant} 

Life Changing

This course gave me so many insights and let me grieve the loss of what I thought my family was and let me stand in reality of what is .  I have much more work to do but I can do it being grounded in truth and knowing I am my own safe place.

L.S

Loved it so much!

Practical and actionable ways of becoming more creative as a result, all delivered in bite-sized pieces, without feeling overwhelmed! I so loved getting my daily lesson and exercises!!

I have been trying to re-kindle my own creative spark after years of turning my back on it and I have found Mary’s course invaluable.

What I loved most was that the course comes in daily, bite-sized pieces which makes it super-actionable and less overwhelming.

No one really wants to talk/ think/ journal about things that were painful along our journey and having a guide like Mary, who is so knowledgeable and empathetic, and also gives you super-useful tools to deal with ALL of this makes it less daunting.

Even though I have no siblings and I was a bit taken aback by the word “scapegoat” in the title I could totally relate to ALL of the topics in this class. Perfectionism, constant criticism, bullying, being shamed/ mocked for your creativity and your creative endeavours, they all are behaviours that leave deep marks, especially when they are being done by your main caregiver from an early age. And unless we address these wounds consciously we, later on, as adults, take in all of these behaviours, internalize them and then hurt ourselves just like we’ve seen it done to us while growing up. (hello addictions, ocd, gossip, people-pleasing etc). which is tragic, because a life with no creativity is a very sad and lonely place.

The world right now needs more magic in it, more storytellers, performers, believers in all-things-possible, painters, artists, musicians. And by doing inner-child work and learning to BE that parent that supports and cheers our inner child is what can make room in our lives for more creativity, more fun, and more joy.

Thank YOU, Mary! I look forward to see what you’re going to do next!!

I.B